Saying Sorry Kids can Be Hard
Being responsible for someone, loving someone and wanting the best for someone can sometimes lead us to bad choices. And because we are proud we do not like to admit that we were wrong. Saying sorry kids can be really hard for some of us.
I have seen severe cases of this in the workplace. I have see bosses virtually wipe the floor with employees only to discover they were wrong but never willingly say sorry. Instead carrying on as thought nothing happened. Despite that employee having to were that stigma at work even thought they were innocent.
When working as a life guard I would advise all the life guards that I trained that you should never expect to be thanked by a parent for saving their child. If you expect to be abused you cannot be devastated when the abuse comes and it will come. The upside is there is a real sense of elation when to your surprise you are thanked for a job well done.
Why do these abuses happen?
Well they are only a natural reaction to the embarrassment of being wrong. Admitting you are wrong requires you to swallow your pride and that is not an easy thing.
But that doesn’t make it right.
An unwillingness to say we are sorry robs us of our full potential. Particularly when it comes to our kids. But worse it robs others especially our kids from reaching their full potential.
If we want them to grow into their full potential we have to teach them how to say sorry and that requires saying it ourselves. To them and others.
There are varying approaches to saying sorry kids The processed you go though may be somewhat different for you than it is for me but as long as the desired result is achieved it will be worth it.
My approach is simple:
Name what you did wrong specifically
Don’t beat around the bush, only apologize for that which you did wrong and don’t bring up what the other person did no matter how you feel about it.
Say sorry unreservedly
Never add a “But” to your apology. You can talk about the issue that raised the need for saying something latter. In a civil manner, as a separate issue when you are both calmer.
Saying sorry kids is a big deal. If we can’t do it to them, what are we saying to them as they grow up.